Monday, April 9, 2012

Do You Have Different "Friends"?

In yesterday's post I was writing about the women in my support group and a diet buddy. Is it odd that I already think of the women in my support group as friends? I definitely think of Debb my diet buddy as a close friend! Then I have my "crafting" friends. Is it odd to categorize your friends? Maybe that's not a good way of saying what I mean. Let me explain.

I have another blog. I share my crafting but also a bit of this and that from my life. I have shared many ups and downs with all those crafting friends. Especially Debb, Carly and Babe. All the men and women in my crafting group here locally or online are so much more than friends. Debb, Carly and Babe could be my long lost sisters! I spend most of my energy on and with my crafting friends. It gives me the most joy in my life!!!

Then I realized what I was trying to say in my post yesterday!!! Do I give the support to the women in the support group that I find it effortless to give to my crafting friends? And to my diet buddy Debb?

As I sit and think of this I realize that no two friends are alike. I have such a loving and kind group of friends that it would be hard to but them all in one category or type! SO WHY TRY!!! :0) I think sometimes over thinking a good thing is a waste of time. LOL

I think as I am now struggling with my weight loss I am encountering feelings of failure. Things like "you can lose it but you'll just gain it back" or "I just have too much to lose why bother...you'll just gain it back!" "how can you help or support anyone when you are struggling yourself". (and the list goes on)

Let's face it...I am my own worst enemy! :0)

Before I close this post, I want to thank Carly personally. You really are more than a friend my dear. You are a support to me and letting me know that I am a support to you made me cry tears of joy! I can tell you anything and I'm so glad to have a friend like you!!! I'm so blessed in every way!Thanks for being a friend who is honest enough with me to give me a quick reminder! I love you like a sister!!! And if I don't tell you enough, you are appreciated!!! xoxoxox

To those of you who are on your weight loss journey. I ask you to sit and think about all the support you have. If you have support even if it is from one person you are BLESSED! You CAN make the journey to a happy and healthy life. And if you find yourself in need of some support...come along with me on my journey! You are welcome and I would love to hear from you!!!

Till my next post...

Sunday, April 8, 2012

Support Group And Am I Supportive?

In my last post I mentioned I was going to a support group for caregivers. It has been "sad and wonderful". I feel such empathy for the ladies in the group. Each has their own turmoil that they are dealing with. Each of us different but alike. I guess that would be the sad part.

The wonderful part is that I don't feel alone. I have a SAFE place I can go and know that no one will ever belittle me or hurt me. Most importantly what we say stays in the room. We don't share it with anyone. They listen to me and sometimes I feel like I have diarrhea of the mouth...you can't shut me up. But mostly I find the women wonderful. They are all so interesting and intelligent. The group coordinator is very calm and insightful. I see her watch and listen and ask great questions to steer the conversations and make us all think of the possible solutions to our individual needs. She also gives us something to work on till our next meeting.

I'm not sure how much I give in the way of support. I'm not much of a phone person. And like all the other women we are caregivers for our spouses. Mine is a quadriplegic(I'm sure I may have mentioned it before) and it is a full time job in and of it's self! Sometimes I have felt the overwhelming need to call and just say hi to one of the women but I always feel like I would be a pest. I think of all of them each day while I walk on my treadmill. I wonder how they are doing and if they are having a good day. (Of course I think of other things and of my diet buddy Debb!)

Sometimes I think I need to just row my own boat. You don't have anything to give. Your opinion is not important. Your not a professional. I really can't help. Don't worry about others. Mind your own business. Then I tell myself what a lonely place the world would be if we all thought like that.

When it comes to my weight I have a friend and diet buddy. Her name is Debb. She lives in another state but you would think we lived next door to each other. With her help I have been soda free and exercising! She is going through a difficult health issue right now and must lose weight. Yet she is there for me with calls and emails. So my point is...am I a support for her in the way she is for me? I am NOT. Then I wonder am I supportive of the women in our group? Can I do better? YES!

I think this is something I need to change about myself. I'm so scared to give of myself totally to friends or even family. It's something I will think about...now to email Debb! :0)

What support do you have in making healthy and happy lifestyle changes? Support group? Family? Friends?
I'd love to hear form you! :0)

Till my next post...